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  • Writer's pictureVicki Murtagh

Reconcile Your Differences

Harmony is a sense of feeling in a sync with that around you; to the point where you are flowing in a state of feeling #calm and #content whilst being in tune with the circumstance, situations and interactions within you life. How great does that sound?

Now for honesty time. Take a moment to reflect. On a scale of one to ten; with one being never in #harmony and with ten being always feeling in harmony. Where are you?

Before you start to judge that and shift into, "Oh well here is yet something else that needs self-improvement", lets look at a concept behind the reason why harmonious living seems to be something that is only experienced in snippets instead of it of being i a regular occurrence.

The concept of inner reconciliation

For a large majority of us, there is a space within ourselves that we often turn away from. These are the parts that we feel are not truly who we are.

Too experience harmony, as a consistent state of being within our lives, an important occurrence needs to happen. A #reconciliation of those parts of ourselves that we don't necessary like needs to occur through the process of loving #acceptance.

The importance of the process of inner reconciliation

The need to bring #balance into your life is a crucial step for #stressmanagement and dealing with the impacts of stress within our daily life.

The truth of the matter though is that a lot of this stress and impact is created by the disharmony that exists within. Yes external situations are triggers but it is our reaction to these circumstances that create the #stress and impact.

This is where it becomes interesting

The truth is that most of our reactivity (good or bad ... if you need to label it) comes from the disharmony, the unrest that we all experience internally.

Where does this internal unrest come from?

So often there is the need to feel that we have to #thebest version of yourselves. That we have to present ourselves this way all the time. That we are only allowed to show the world the vibrant version of yourselves.

The version of ourselves that:

  • has it all together

  • that other people like

  • is healthy

  • smart

  • friendly

  • supportive

  • considerate of others ...

and the list goes on

On the flip side of this WE ALL have aspects of ourselves that we don't like.

The parts that we spend a lot of your energy attempting to:

  • change them

  • hide them

  • improve ourselves in some ways so that these aspects no longer are there; or

  • completely ignoring that they even exist in the first place.

These are the parts which much as feel that we need to run away from ourselves ... even just for a little while.

Reconciliation is the process of embracing the "I AM" by ceasing the running away from yourself.

And this is where the #unrest grows from. There is stress and pressure that builds from attempting to present the best possible version of you; whilst hiding the fact that you cried in front of the TV series you binged watched over the weekend whilst eating nothing more than chocolate, chips and ice cream.

Jungian Archetypes - Persona & Shadow

There is an ancient yogic philosophy that was made popular by Carl Jung. This is referred to this as The #Jungian Model of the Psyche.

This model looks at the interplay of our mind / psyche and how it impacts on our behaviours and interactions.

Jung believed that the psyche is a self-regulating system, rather like the body, one that seeks to maintain a balance between opposing qualities while constantly striving for growth.

Now without going to much into this theory lets take some time to sit with two of the Jungian #archetypes referred to as the #Persona and the #Shadow.